家庭故事／不准成功的策略

[gucci37]

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家庭故事／不准成功的策略

【聯合報╱依依(台北三重)】 2010.09.25 03:29 am

我進到病房，看到八十歲的老爸坐在病床上談笑風生，護士小姐抿著嘴忍住笑，看護阿姨則笑得東倒西歪，幾乎要跌坐在地上。我知道老爸這病「回天有術」啦！

我爸從年輕到老，無論走到哪兒，處處受歡迎，不管是鄉下的雜貨店，還是都市的建築工地，只要有他的地方就有笑聲。以前他去外地做工，常有女人跟回家來，想探探這個魅力無法擋的男人的究竟，我娘煩不勝煩，她說我爸是「出外一條龍，回家一條蟲」的懶漢，嫁給這種男人只能自認倒楣。

我爸EQ高，人緣好，有幽默感，雖然只有小學畢業，卻很愛看書，他的思想觀念開通，人際關係活絡，善體人意，幾乎不曾與人起過任何衝突，更是個協調溝通的高手。這是個具備成功條件的男人，但是很可惜的，卻一輩子窮困潦倒。

他生命中的前四十年在家鄉種田，他與我娘將兩分地種成六甲水田，最後為了讓我讀書，被迫分家。四十二歲來到台北之後，到處打零工，失意落魄，渾渾噩噩過了二十幾年。

我最近常想，我老爸條件這麼好，是個標準做生意的人才，可是為什麼卻風塵僕僕，一事無成呢？原來其中關鍵就在我娘。

我娘是個極端封閉保守，個性強悍又專制的女人，來到台北後，老爸想做任何事，她一律打回票，不准擺攤、不准騎摩托車、不准開車、不准亂交朋友，每天做完工就要立刻回家。老爸精神備受壓抑，能力無法施展，乾脆逃到酒鄉一醉解千愁了。直到前幾年小中風後，聽從醫生勸阻，方才戒酒。

趁著老爸生病不在家，我問我娘：「像老爸這種人，沒去做生意賺錢，一輩子打零工不是太可惜嗎？」

我娘氣定神閒的說：「這妳就不懂啦，妳爸感性勝過理性，女人緣又好，萬一事業真的成功了，怕不要娶五房太太才行！那我還有好日子過嗎？」

原來我娘長年把老爸踩在腳下，就是怕他成功後失去他，這也太離譜了呀！

【2010/09/24 聯合報】@ http://udn.com/

[alexhuang1961]

每個成功的男人..........背後都有個女人

反過來確不一定!

[cyc]

我娘氣定神閒的說：「這妳就不懂啦，妳爸感性勝過理性，女人緣又好，萬一事業真的成功了，怕不要娶五房太太才行！那我還有好日子過嗎？」
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看來
娘是對的 (完美計劃)

悔教夫婿覓封侯
古有明訓

[草帽小子]

一個人才就這樣毀了

[forester]

女的對男的這種態度還叫愛?
愛是尊重對方
讓對方能有所發揮
而不是把對方圈養起來吧

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